Nothing like a wedding and a new baby to make a girl think about love n life!
A few days ago I saw two beautiful souls pledge their life-long love for one another, committing not just to a partnership of growth and joy, but to contributing to a community that they could feel proud of. My heart swelled in resonance when I heard this at the ceremony – where we all joined hands, standing in the shape of a rainbow, on the sunniest day of the year, beside a gorgeous foresty lake in Haskell, NJ. We were all connected by their love, and as a part of this intimate gathering of friends and family, I felt honored. Having known one of the grooms for 14 years, joy and pride coursed through me. I ate many Lindt chocolates that day – in celebration, of course!
Lada Gaga showed up for a number, mothers danced with sons, and a young tattooed man in a tank top served us all copious amounts of booze. It was the most fabulous Big Gay Wedding this side of San Francisco!
I got into a conversation with a friend of mine today about same-sex marriage and how its acceptance is a part of how definitions of human rights are changing, on a global scale. And how, ironically, same-sex marriages are considerably more successful than heterosexual ones – probably because the institution really does *mean* something in the community. It doesn’t *just* mean “I love you – for now.” It means “I love you, we’re committed, and this is a symbol of what basic human rights should protect!”
Justa few days prior to the wedding, another dear friend I’ve known since college gave birth to a baby girl, Mildred, a feisty little ninjawho’d been kickin’ and punchin’ away in the womb with almost more fury than our beloved mama could take. It must’ve been sweet relief when she finally popped out, looking absolutely adorable, I might add. You never woulda guessed her martial background ….
When I visited Mad in Baltimore a few weeks prior, I couldn’t believe how visible the baby was inside her belly. I mean, I could see her moving around from across the room! People romanticize having babies, but it really does seriously rock your body. And unless you have a personal trainer, it’ll probably stay rocked forever! Can I handle this kinda thing??
Lives changed forever. Love bonds that last a lifetime. Two different kinds of love – but then again, are they?
Married love, family love, friend love – isn’t love, at its very core, a universal experience between two individuals? It’s a space for people to connect and evolve – sometimes through sacrifice, and sometimes through shared moments of joyous experience. It holds all the meaning you give it … it could be your reason for living. It could be so transcendental it comes and goes freely on this plane, existing in infinity on another.
All this love talk made me think of this Krishnamurti essay on love that I really wanted to share again.
So what’s love mean to you? Co-creation? Understanding? Trust? ….